No woman is ever ready for a miscarriage. The feeling of something not quite right, followed by symptoms, and then a broken heart, isn’t easy.
It doesn’t matter if you knew you were pregnant for a day or for weeks; miscarriage can leave emotional pain that’s unique to each woman and hard to explain.
Brazos Pregnancy Centers understands and is ready to help you work through the emotional pain, whether your miscarriage is recent or a painful memory in your past. Schedule an appointment to talk with us confidentially and learn how we can help you process your loss.
In the meantime, read on for tips to start healing emotionally from a miscarriage.
Remind Yourself: It’s Not Your Fault
If trapped in a cycle of “what ifs” and self-blame, remind yourself that it’s not your fault.
Miscarriage happens in as many as 10-20% of known pregnancies, and the number may even be higher. Most miscarriages occur due to developmental issues in the first trimester, such as the embryo missing a chromosome or having extra chromosomes.
Certain health conditions can raise the risk of miscarriage, but most miscarriages happen due to random events and not the woman’s fault, so free yourself from these feelings.
If you’re still struggling in this area and think you contributed, it’s time to forgive yourself. You didn’t intend to miscarry.
Take Time to Grieve
We live in a fast-paced culture that expects women to dust themselves off and move on, but it doesn’t work that way. It’s essential to take the time you need to grieve your loss.
Write your feelings out on paper or in your notes app. You could even write a letter to the child you were unable to meet. These actions can help get everything off your chest, exhale, and begin to find closure. Talk with a close friend, relative, or counselor about your feelings.
Grieving is a healthy and necessary process. Remember that you will always wonder about your miscarriage, and it could bring up sadness or different emotions, but over time, the feelings will become less raw.
Be Patient with Yourself
There isn’t a checklist to complete that will lead to total healing. Taking healthy actions is one way to help, but it’s not a total solution.
A part of this is being patient with yourself, recognizing your daily feelings, and acknowledging that it will get easier over time.
Find Support in Community
Brazos Pregnancy Center is here to help you find peace through support. Contact us today to schedule a free appointment with our caring team.
We’re here to help you process your grief so you can feel like yourself and experience joy again. Hope is available.